tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6010810.post7766183691067252500..comments2023-07-02T01:33:20.308-07:00Comments on The Abbot of Unreason: Movie GrumpingAbbotOfUnreasonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08484573287776114988noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6010810.post-63431353274344346692009-08-06T09:26:42.085-07:002009-08-06T09:26:42.085-07:00unhelpful comment to old post - the boombox-over-t...unhelpful comment to old post - the boombox-over-the-head came not as a result of a break-up caused by boy-behaving-badly, if I recall correctly. <br /><br />In more direct response, it seems to me that these movies are really reflecting a truth, not making something up that might influence reality. From my (admittedly limited) experience, there certainly exist some number of women who will say things like "get away from me and stay away from me" but change their mind about it later. Not that that's a good thing, but it certainly happens regularly around me.i, squubhttp://www.squub.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6010810.post-19521362395005377402009-07-18T14:46:35.060-07:002009-07-18T14:46:35.060-07:00@Jodie, thanks for stopping by. I don't think...@Jodie, thanks for stopping by. I don't think a movie is going to tip anybody one way or another, but I do think it's a symptom and reinforcement.AbbotOfUnreasonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08484573287776114988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6010810.post-74678654041660699342009-07-17T03:43:29.567-07:002009-07-17T03:43:29.567-07:00Nice analysis - that's certainly an angle of &...Nice analysis - that's certainly an angle of 'why romantic comdeies are fun tp pick apart' that I've never examined before. <br /><br />I agree with your first point (women and facts) because many men in rom coms seem to believe that the only reason their romance experiences rockiness is because the women just can not see the true situation clearly. Otherwise it might be the mens fault or something.<br /><br />The no means no argument - I think if you're a guy who is already looking for validation of the 'no doesn't always mean no' or already believe in it seeing a version of it in movies might give you what you need. However I don't think it's going to tip guys who know no means no into the other camp.Jodiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11462660276240016464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6010810.post-51476421997032216952009-07-10T18:24:34.935-07:002009-07-10T18:24:34.935-07:00I agree with you, of course. I wouldn't want ...I agree with you, of course. I wouldn't want to say that movies <i>cause</i> these attitudes, but I think that movies/media feed into the attitudes, which become more widespread and so the movies/media do more, and so on in a vicious circle.AbbotOfUnreasonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08484573287776114988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6010810.post-1413734152867802302009-07-10T09:11:13.888-07:002009-07-10T09:11:13.888-07:00Well, there is hunger and genocide in the world th...Well, there is hunger and genocide in the world that you could focus on, but taking on romantic comedies is admirable as well :)<br /><br />I have no problem with a romantic story that shows that sometimes good relationships can have rocky beginnings, but the devil is in the details. Since we're opening up here, I do think that our society as a whole has unrealistic views and expectations on romance and relationships, and that view had to come from someplace - perhaps movies and other media. There is too much emphasis on romance, wedding and ceremony, and not enough on relationship. But then again, the realities of relationships might not sell well at the box office.<br /><br />Fellow CurmudgeonBowie Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09656054601003840365noreply@blogger.com